There are people who make the move to New York City or Los Angeles and say, “Okay, I’m
going to give acting a shot for a year or five years. If I don’t “make it,” then I will go back home
and take on the profession I chose as a, “back up.”
So, should you put an expiration date on your dream of becoming an actor?
THE ACTING DREAM
I can’t say that there was a defining moment where I “Knew” I wanted to be an actor. All I know
is, there is a force that compels me to pursue acting. To do this I have to live in a city with a high
cost of living. This is a job I can’t do remotely, even though the majority of auditions have gone
online, the production companies still require that you be a “local hire” to book the job. With
Covid-19, the production companies’ costs have gone up a great deal. So, unless you are
already an established actor, they are not going to pay to fly you in for a callback or for a
booking.
With my current income, I can move to another part of the country with a lower cost of living
and live the “American Dream.” Buy a house in the suburbs with my wife, have 2 ½ kids, a dog,
and barbecue on the weekends. But, I wouldn’t be fulfilled. I will be an actor until it no longer
holds a place in my heart.
Search within yourself and see if acting is something that makes you happy. I don’t just mean
acting itself, but all that comes with it. Auditioning, unorthodox work, continuous training, and
countless, “No’s.” You must put yourself in the right mindset. You can’t compare your life to
your family and friends with “regular” lives. For the most part you are only seeing the external.
Just like social media, people will only reveal the good. You shouldn’t compare yourself to
anyone. Period. With the right mindset, you will see the triumphs in everything. Every audition
is a win. Every acting class you attend strengthens your “acting muscle.” If acting is a marathon,
every day you endure is a day closer to your goal.
CHANGE OF HEART
As humans, we fall in and out of love…and that is okay. As long as you give it a fair shake, if you
chose that acting is not for you, don’t get down on yourself. Do what makes you happy. Don’t
be ashamed if you pack up and go back home. You took more action than most ever will.
Leaving the comfort of the familiar, your neighborhood, your friends, your family. If you choose
this route, when you get back home, you will realize that not much has changed. The one that
has changed is you. For the better.
Whatever path you take, make sure it makes you happy. Don’t just take that, “back up” job
because you think it’s safe. Most people will make life decisions based on fear. Do not let
others impose their fear on you. So, when you look back at this part of your life, you know you
made your choices on your terms and not because of a deadline.
WHAT IT TAKES TO BECOME AN ACTOR
Becoming an actor takes more than just moving to New York or Los Angeles, and getting
headshots. Like any other profession, you have to make an investment. First, if you are
“Transplanting” to another City or State, there are financial and emotional costs involved. Such
as moving your personal belongings and securing a place to stay. Chances are you will be
leaving the comfort of your inner circle; your family and friends. You have to be prepared for
that mentally, because from experience I can tell you that Los Angeles can be a very lonely
place until you make some friends. Among other costs, there is the cost of acting classes – a
MUST if you are to succeed. It doesn’t matter if Drama was your college major. You must stay
sharp.
We all hear stories of how people were “discovered” in a party or at the beach or standing in
line in a supermarket. Or a successful actor that never took an acting class. Now, these stories
may be true, but It is such a minute percentage that this will happen that if you don’t put in the
work and a year or five years down the line say, “I tried and nothing happened,” you are lying
to yourself. If you make the move to a new City but don’t put in the work, you never really gave
it a shot. You didn’t quit acting, you quit on yourself.
I WILL BE HAPPY WHEN…
Many times, we put in our minds that we have to pay dues. Giving the journey a negative
connotation. That we must suffer to get to our goal, and once we reach that goal, we will allow
ourselves to enjoy life. Sure, you will not get the top jobs right away. Chances are, you are not
going to come out of the gate with a leading role in a major motion picture. However, you must
be grateful for every victory, no matter how small. You got a meeting with an agent or
manager, that’s a victory. You got an audition for a one line co-star, that’s a victory. You can
afford to stay in acting class, another victory. We must find happiness along the way because
reaching worthy goals take time. Time, we never get back. Make no sense to go through life
unhappy. You don’t want to reflect on your life from your death bed and say you went through
life unhappy.
DREAM KILLERS
Beware of dream killers. They may or may not be intentional. Most of us human’s base our
decisions based on fear, not on what they really want to do. Some take jobs they feel are
secure but come home every day and complain about their job. Their mentality might be, “At
least I have a job.” You have big dreams and want to realize them. There is a good chance that
when you tell your family that you want to be an actor, their reaction might be to get a “real”
job or you don’t have what it takes. Don’t let this type of talk seep in to your subconscious.
They don’t mean harm; they are speaking from their fear based mentality. Be empathetic, don’t
take it personal and move forward toward your dreams.
Then there are those who are jealous and do wish to derail you. Those you thought were your
friends. You must cut them off because any positive update you give them, they will be sending
you negative vibes in return.
SHOULD YOU EVER QUIT?
There is no definitive answer for this. It is up to each individual. The most important question to
ask yourself is, “Are you enjoying the process?” Doesn’t matter your age, there are roles for all
ages and races. You can be 90 years old and still be acting.
If you are enjoying the process, then thing you must prepare to set you up for success. Not only
working on craft, also having a positive mentality, and positioning yourself financial to be able
to have a life, have a family, and still pursue your dreams. I know, this is an oversimplification.
No improvement is made without some type of discomfort. Just keep in mind that you are one
audition away from having your life changed.
If you are no longer enjoying the process, or there are other life events that won’t allow you
continue pursuing acting, there is nothing wrong with pivoting. Maybe, in the future you may
return to it. Just be true to yourself. Give it an honest go. Don’t half ass it and then say,
“Nothing is happening.” You will only be cheating yourself.
Now, go break some legs.